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16 Jun 2016

How to Text a Chinese Girl You’re Dating

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

You might already realize that text messages are extremely important when you’re dealing with women, but they’re particularly important when you’re trying to woo a Chinese woman.

Like women in most developed and developing countries, Chinese women are glued to their phones a lot of the time, and one of your best bets for getting her attention once you have her number is to shoot her a text. Alternatively, you can also use one of the several Chinese social media and messaging apps to get acquainted with new women while you’re in China. People in China love to use WeChat in particular, so get as familiar with it as possible.

Now, like with many other cross-cultural issues, there is a learning curve. As with talking in person, texting Chinese women will be different from texting Western women most of the time. Let’s take a look at some tips on how to text your potential Chinese girlfriend and not mess things up:

1) Don’t be too forward

If a Chinese girl is shy and plays hard-to-get, it’s usually not an act—her parents taught her to be suspicious of men’s intentions and to guard herself. This would be especially true if you’re a foreigner. A Western woman might be fine with you just cutting to the chase and getting immediately sexual in your conversation if she was attracted to you, but this would effectively be too overwhelming for a Chinese girl and may very well turn her off.

Even if you only plan on something casual and don’t want to get in a serious relationship, Asian girls tend to be more shy about the subject of sex, so save all of that for when you’re actually in private and in the bedroom. Don’t bring it up explicitly over text, and absolutely do not send pictures of anything under your clothes.

Further, you may be surprised that she will reject you the first time when you ask her out. This is somewhat normal thanks to her upbringing, so you might have to beat around the bush a lot more to get her comfortable before she agrees to meet you somewhere in person. It’s kind of tedious, but it’s part of the game in China. This is also why it helps to target girls who are specifically interested in dating foreigners; it may lower the “walls” just a little bit.

2) Use lots of emojis

It’s kind of hard to convey tone and other factors like intention through text. Even in person, you may find Chinese girls taking a lot of your sarcastic jokes literally, so you may have to tone things down in that department to avoid a misunderstanding.

Another way to signal your intentions and emotions is to use plenty of emojis. You will probably find that she will use them, too; they are a bit more popular with people in Asian than with those in the Western world, so it will take some getting used to, but it makes a lot of sense considering that there are few other ways to convey nuance.

3) Avoid texting in Chinese if you aren’t fluent

Of course, if the girl you are talking to does not speak a lick of English, you’re much better off using your basic Chinese than taking a chance on her ability to decipher what you said, or worse, use translation software. However, if the girl speaks English, but your Chinese is not very good, just go ahead and text in English. The potential for misunderstanding is just too high if you are both not fluent in the language and also new to the culture.

Once a single bad misunderstanding has occurred, you’ve probably lost your chance with the girl, even if she later comes to realize that you meant to say something else; the awkward feelings will more than likely linger between you.

This is also a good time to mention that if you aren’t fluent, get fluent! People like to talk about how “hard” Asian languages are, but the truth is that they’re not hard, they’re just very different from Western languages. If you approach Chinese with an open mind, the way a child does when he’s learning his first language, you’ll have an easier time of it than if you were to bring all your cultural baggage from your own language.

4) Keep things simple and clear

Similar to what’s mentioned above, try to go for clarity when you’re in a situation of differing cultures. If you want to ask her out to tea and feel that she’s ready to say yes, skip the innuendos and tell her in a very literal way. Lots of Westerners have the temptation to be “clever” when they talk to girls, but this does not always translate well. Will this mean that you’ll have to tone down your “game” a little bit? Certainly, but your game will have to be different when dealing with Chinese girls anyway. Try to be more obvious and honest about the things that you say; this is something that most Chinese girls will appreciate.

5) Be discreet

Especially if what you’re looking for is less serious, don’t walk up to her while she’s with her friends and make obvious advances—you will be shot down. This is kind of the beauty of text in that it allows you to communicate with her discreetly and no one has to know what you’re up to. A lot of Chinese girls are attracted to foreign men, but as with most girls you will meet in any culture, they are afraid of appearing like they are “loose women” in front of their social circle. You can avoid this by just allowing her to keep the relationship secret if she wants.

These are just a few tips on getting started messaging and texting the girl you’re dating or are interested in. Obviously, the only way you can get really good a texting game with Chinese girls is through experience and practice. So download WeChat or another popular messaging app and get to work.

8 Jun 2016

How to Meet Women in China – The 3 Best Ways

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

Meeting women in general can be tough, but it can be especially difficult when there’s a language barrier and cultural barrier that keeps you from being able to access a vast social circle. Still, meeting and dating Chinese women is more than worth the effort, since they can be extremely kind and loyal companions compared to some of their Western counterparts.

That’s not to say that there’s necessarily anything wrong with Western women, it’s just that you’ll probably have a better chance of finding a long-lasting relationship if you choose to date a Chinese woman. Yes, it might be harder to find a casual hook-up in China than in the Western world where women are very “liberated” sexually, but it sort of comes with the territory; Chinese culture is still very conservative and women especially like to focus on finding a stable husband to create a stable life for themselves.

One huge concern of course, is this: If you have no social contacts in China, how are you going to be able to find a woman in the first place? Like most women, Chinese ladies prefer to be introduced by someone who has already been vetted by their friends or acquaintances. Luckily, you can bypass some of this complication in a few different ways. Let’s take a look at some different ways to meet women in China:

Day Game

One way to meet women in China is to employ some modified versions of your “day game” techniques. They have to be modified because of course you’re dealing with a different culture. One way you could do this—if you have the courage—is by simply cold approaching girls who are meandering around in parks or on the street. The malls are also not bad places to find girls to meet, but of course all of this cold approaching takes some guts and an ability to deal with the occasional (or frequent) rejection.

It helps to know some Chinese as well, but it’s not totally necessary. Just remember to tone down the aggressiveness compared to how you approach Western girls. You also want to come off as more polite, since this is not seen as a possible weakness the way it is sometimes in the West, and in fact will win you some points.

Another, probably better way to find girls during the day is to employ a little help from technology. Like any other modern culture, Chinese people love their social networking apps, and one of the most popular of these is WeChat.

Not only does it allow you to add friends and do the usual things you would expect, but you can make new friends through its geo-location capabilities. Just set up your profile, set the app to find girls near you, and you’re in business. Of course, after that you will have to go through the usual messaging process and setting up an in-person meeting. It’s advisable to meet in person as soon as possible; drop any girls who seem to just be interested in chatting a lot and keep making excuses about meeting in person, as these are certainly time-wasters. After all, you didn’t go to China to find a pen pal, did you?

Night Game

As you would expect, there are also bars and nightclubs in major Chinese cities. Your best bet in this regard is probably going to be Shanghai. This is a large city with a thriving nightlife that is generally friendly to foreigners, and it’s also full of the most single women of just about any city. Also, if you’re looking for a casual relationship or even just a one-night stand, a club or a bar is the place to find it. It’s not too different from Western culture in this regard; the girls who are just looking for adventure go to these kinds of places, and the girls who are looking for serious relationships tend to avoid them.

The only problem here is that most of the bars worth visiting will be kind of expensive, especially if you’re looking for women who are single, independent, and simply wanting to spend time with a man for the evening. Another thing to look out for is that many clubs in these major cities are full of foreign girls as well. If that doesn’t bother you, then go ahead.

Online Dating

If you simply want to use an online match-maker to find a Chinese girl to date, then you can do this also. One of the advantages here is that you don’t have to walk around town, sifting through every girl that you find interesting and getting rejected or possibly angering her boyfriend if she’s not single.

In theory, every girl you meet on a dating site should be available and looking for romance, so all of this will be less of an issue. Of course, one disadvantage is that you’ll have to deal with flakes who are playing games and you’ll also be competing with a million other guys. All in all, though, since dating is a numbers game, you’re sometimes better off using a dating site since it will give you access to more women than you would ever be able to meet in person. In addition, if you choose a dating site that specifically caters to foreigners who want to meet Chinese women, then you know that your prospects are already interested in foreign men.

If you are currently in China, then push to meet the girl as soon as you can. Give her your phone number, start texting as soon as possible, and make plans to meet. The longer you wait, the more likely she is going to lose interest. Even if she seems shy at first, she is really only interested in a flesh-and-blood man, not text on a screen, so you’re going to want to have her see you that way as immediately as possible.

Ultimately, there are many ways to meet women in China, but these are probably your three best options if you’re new to the country (or are just visiting) and have no social network yet. Of course, finding a woman through your social network, or even by visiting a match-maker if it’s a wife that you want, is ideal, but sometimes you won’t have that luxury when you’re first getting to know China.

3 Jun 2016

5 Tips for Dating Taiwanese Girls

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

Many people overlook Taiwan when they are thinking of East Asian territories. In the minds of many people, it gets lumped together with “China,” but the fact of the matter is that, just like many Asian cultures, Taiwanese culture is unique and particular to the area, so it is better to approach the people there with an open mind and with no assumptions that they will be the same as their mainland counterparts.

In fact, the island of Taiwan was more or less culturally isolated from the rest of the world until the advent of mass transportation, so this led to the development of unique customs and unique dialects.

However, as is the case with much of Asia, Taiwanese women make great girlfriends. Unlike many Western women, they are selfless and attentive once you have gained their trust as a boyfriend, and they tend to have a generally positive disposition.

In contrast with Asian women of other cultures, though, you may find that Taiwanese women are refreshingly proactive when it comes to building a relationship with you. Believe it or not, they will often even go to the trouble of contacting you and inviting you to outings if they like you; imagine that! The stereotypical Asian shyness can certainly be sweet, but sometimes it can get tedious when you’re trying to move forward into a romantic connection.

Keeping these differences in mind, let’s take a look at some tips in order to get the most out of your Taiwanese dating experience:

1) Remain open-minded

As mentioned, Taiwanese women are a little different from the women of other Asian territories. They can be just as thoughtful, but they are also a little more assertive with what they want. This can be both a good thing and a bad thing at first, but usually you will find that it will be in your favor. Since she’ll be less likely to hide the fact that she likes you behind a veil of games, you’re more likely to know where you stand with her. In return, be kind and open yourself; vulnerability on both sides is probably the most rewarding approach.

2) Bond through food

It’s no secret that one of the universal languages in this world is food, and this is especially true for Taiwanese people, who love to eat just as much as Westerners do, if not more. A good way to build rapport between you and your prospective girl is to eat together, so if you’re ever wondering where you should take her out on a date, a restaurant isn’t a bad idea.

Food is also a great conversational topic that is sure to keep her interest and keep the two of you in a positive, upbeat mood. Be sure to try some of the local cuisine and expand your horizons there, too; this is a great opportunity for culture exchange and learning.

If you’re thinking of getting her a gift, and have no idea what to give her, one of the best things to default to is food. Though Asian tastes tend to run a little less sweet than those of Westerners, candy or small snack foods can certainly be a nice touch every once in awhile.

3) Exploit the social network

Decent Taiwanese girls will be wary of meeting random men at nightclubs or bars, so if you want a woman who will be girlfriend material, your best bet is to ask your social connections to keep a lookout for any eligible single women. Ask your friends to introduce you to women that they know, and this will make the whole “getting to know you” period much easier, since she will trust you more right off the bat.

4) Don’t be afraid of cultural misunderstanding

It is bound to happen that there will clashes if you’re not too familiar with the culture of Taiwan. Don’t let this scare you into a state of perpetual shyness. Accept that there will be differences, and resolve to get to know the culture as best you can. Foreigners get a certain “free pass” when it comes to some things because you’re not expected to simply know all of the customs of a country. Still, show that you are making an effort and she’ll likely be very appreciative.

5) Try to learn the local language

While having that exotic edge is great, if you plan to spend any time in Taiwan, or you’re seriously looking for a potential mate, there’s no need to limit yourself to women who only speak English. To make things easier and to reduce the amount of communication problems, try to immerse yourself in the culture and language as best you can. Any language of the Chinese family may seem hard to pick up at first to a Westerner, since they are so different from the Indo-European languages, but with some practice you will get used to it.

Again, showing effort in getting to know your girlfriend’s language and culture is likely to impress her. More importantly, if your relationship is going in a serious direction, this effort is likely to pay off hugely when it’s time to make an impression on her parents. Like the people of many Asian cultures, her parents may be a bit wary of foreigners and may question your commitment, so your taking the trouble to learn the language will be a good sign in their eyes.

So if you’re planning a trip to Taiwan or are merely considering dating Taiwanese girls as you start your search for a good girlfriend or wife, remember these tips.

More importantly, try not to worry too much about outcomes and keep yourself open to possibilities. Sure, you are looking forward to the end goal of having a date or finding a decent partner, but make sure not to limit yourself too soon, either by clinging to a specific woman too soon or by dwelling on worrisome thoughts.

The more comfortable and confident you are, the more she will mirror your attitude, so remember that, even though your cultures are different, Taiwanese women are human beings just like anyone else, and there’s no reason to be too nervous.

25 May 2016

Where to Meet Vietnamese Girls: The 3 Best Places

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

Vietnamese women can make some extremely loyal girlfriends if you know where to look for the right ones. They are not only generally very attractive women, but they are also conditioned to want to please their men, which is something that you may find to be refreshing if you’ve spent most of your life dating Western women.

If you’re not already convinced about the beauty of Vietnamese girls, just let this video run for a couple of minutes…

The culture in Vietnam is still rather traditional, so the women there are usually looking for a stable boyfriend or husband whom they can have a serious relationship with. Naturally, this doesn’t mean that all the girls are like that and that it will be impossible to find something casual, but again keep in mind that girls from Vietnam are different from Western women and even the women of other Asian cultures, and often have a more long-term view of dating.

As with any population of women though, different kinds of girls congregate in different places, so you’re going to want to know where to go to get what you’re looking for. Whether you want a one-night stand or something that will last for years, let’s take a look at a few of your options when it comes to meeting Vietnamese girls:

1) The Beach

If you’re already in Vietnam, one of the best places to flex your romantic muscles and meet some girls can be at the beach. Just like in the West, it’s good to run your “day game” where people are relaxed and receptive to your casual conversations. If you’re trying to pick up strangers and get to know them, though, it’s probably best to stick to beaches more or less near big cities in the South like Ho Chi Minh City, since the more urbanized and Western-friendly girls are easier to come by and they will make you jump through fewer hoops if you’re just looking for a physical relationship. Up North, expect the girls to be more hesitant to have casual sex.

2) Clubs and Bars

You may be interested in getting laid at all costs, in which case a bar or club in Vietnam is the way to go—but you’ll often have to pay for it. Not all girls at the clubs are prostitutes, but until you’ve had a bit of experience, it may be hard for you to know at first if the girl you’re talking to is a pro or just into you for your good looks.

If you just want to have fun and don’t mind having to sift through these kinds of girls, then go ahead, but—just as you may have experienced in the West—it’s much, much harder to find a “nice girl” at a nightclub or other similar location than in, say, the halls of a University or the pews of a church.

Sure, lots of girls like to dance, but it’s all a numbers game, and if you’re looking for your future wife, the numbers are not in your favor at a club. On the other hand, you may have just come to Vietnam to have fun. If that’s the case, you can at the very least make some friends and dance with some pretty girls.

3) Online Dating

The nice thing about online dating is that you can do this even if you’re not quite ready yet for international travel. If you’re looking for something serious, and you want a reason to go to Vietnam, then you might try one of the quality Asian dating sites out there that let you meet and chat with Vietnamese women.

Just like in the West, online dating is increasingly popular in South East Asian, and there are plenty of women out there who are specifically looking for a foreign husband or boyfriend. Some women see Western men as being exotic or particularly attractive, or else they are interested in learning about Western culture and making a friend from an English-speaking country, so they join international dating sites in the hopes of meeting men like you.

Now, though you can meet quality women on dating sites, it has a few pitfalls that are similar to the club scenario. First of all, you will have to distinguish the real prospects from prostitutes. This is fairly straight-forward usually, though; once you’ve talked to a girl long enough and it doesn’t seem like she’s after any money, the problem sort of takes care of itself.

Another downside, is that these sites may be saturated by multitudes of men with similar intentions as yours, but thankfully there are usually plenty of great women to go around—and if there aren’t, then you might be on the wrong site.

Something important to note here is to also be aware of possible scammers. Just as you can expect in other Southeast Asian countries, a small minority of women in Vietnam who show interest in you are going to be actually interested in your money without any intention of even giving sex in return. If you haven’t even met her and she’s giving you a sob story about her poor auntie who is sick, then beware.

For a lot of guys, they don’t have experience saying no to beautiful women, and so they get taken advantage of. Make sure not to let your guard down too easily when you’re first taking to a new woman, and don’t let her beauty or personality blind you to any red flags that she may be all too obviously displaying.

If you meet a good woman on a dating site, she might want to take things rather slow, but be patient. As mentioned, Vietnamese women are more traditional, so try not to scare her away by getting too sexual too quickly. Keep things polite, but still try to ask all the deep questions so that you can really get to know your prospective girlfriend before you meet.

These are just a few ideas on where to meet your Vietnamese girlfriend, but honestly, the sky is the limit. Just as with any other countries, you will have to learn its unique flavor yourself and come up with your own ideas for best results.

For some extra preparation, check out this video on tips for dating a Vietnamese girl:

17 May 2016

Where to Meet Filipinas: The 3 Best Places

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

So you’ve just discovered Filipinas and are fascinated with both their culture and their potential as good girlfriends and wives. They are loyal, extremely beautiful, and in general have some of the most fluent English-language abilities of all of the South East Asians.

To make things even better, Filipino culture normally views Westerners in a very positive light, so you’ll have much less trouble being culturally accepted, and in fact, there are many Filipinas specifically interested in foreigners.

If you’re traveling through the Philippines or are planning a trip there, though, you may not be sure where to go to find the right Filipina for you. Being from a different culture, it’s common to not have the faintest clue where to go or how to best approach these women.

If you concentrate your efforts on just a few places, though, you are bound to see some results:

1) Bars and Clubs

If you’re from a Western country, you may be used to the idea that fertile women looking for a mate tend to congregate at bars and clubs during the weekends, and to some extent Filipina women are no different.

There are plenty of beautiful girls who love to go out and enjoy the nightlife, whether it’s at a karaoke bar or at a nightclub. If you have any experience with meeting girls at bars and clubs in the west, you may realize that these aren’t going to necessarily be the highest-quality women that you can find, so you will probably want to forgo this scene if you are looking for something deeper than just a casual romantic relationship.

Another pitfall to avoid in bars are prostitutes. If you wish to pay a woman for sex, of course that’s your business, but if you’re not looking for that kind of transaction, keep in mind that escorts will often try to recruit customers in these locations, and you may not immediately realize that they are looking for money.

To avoid being in this awkward situation, make friends with some locals and find out which of the nightclubs are normally filled with prostitutes and which are not.

2) Malls and Shopping Centers

Women all over the world like to shop, and Filipina girls are no exception. In fact, shopping malls are usually very nice in the Philippines, with temperature control and other amenities, so it is not unusual to find yourself among a crowd of young women if you visit one.

Though some men are too shy to approach women during the day, you can find lots of potentially compatible women if you suck your fear up and say hello while at a mall. Think about it: If she’s out shopping, she’s probably not too busy, so she doesn’t have a whole lot of excuses to turn away her attention. At worst, even if she isn’t interested in a romantic interaction, you may find yourself with a new friend and this can lead to lots of other opportunities in her social network.

Try not to feel too out of place being a Westerner there, and remember to use this fact as an asset whenever you can. Some Filipina women may even view you as exotic, so don’t hesitate to make a connection as you are walking around and exploring the local area.

3) Online Dating

Though it’s often good to make an impression in person, a way to cut out all of the time-wasters is to turn to online dating. Girls who have joined a dating site are actually interested in finding a romantic partner, so you know at the very least that you’ll probably both be on the same page.

Filipinas are very plugged-in when it comes to Internet culture, so you can meet all sorts of girls on dating sites, from low-quality to high-quality ones. Whether you are looking for something long-term or casual, chances are you can find a like-minded partner.

There are a few things to watch out for on these online dating sites, though, so keep on your toes as you assess the profiles. The first thing you need to consider is whether or not she might be a prostitute. Just as with clubs, you will meet an array of women, and some of these women are only looking for money. Though you may find that the hookers are upfront with you, some will string you along to get you interested and then start asking for cash. The best thing to do in such a case is to cut off contact immediately if you suspect that she is even slightly interested in being paid for sex—unless of course you’re into that kind of arrangement.

Another thing to watch out for are scammers. Some girls don’t intend to exchange sex for money—they just want the money part. Be especially aware of this if you are not actually physically in the Philippines and are interacting with a girl long-distance. If she asks you to send her money, and you comply, understand that she is probably using that money for whatever she wants, not for whatever excuse she used to get you to send it to her. She may not even be interested in your romantically; in fact, some of these women are not interested in men at all and simply use the funds that gullible would-be romeos send to them to support their lifestyles.

If any woman asks you to send her money and she hasn’t even met you and isn’t even your girlfriend, always say no.

Other than that, online dating can actually be a very efficient way to talk to many girls at once. Since it’s important to keep you prospects open when you’re trying to find the girl who is right for you, this is probably one of the best methods for meeting girls.

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Remember that you don’t have to limit yourself to any one method. One of the best things that you can do is to use a combination of all of the above methods until you get the results that you’re looking for.

11 May 2016

How to Make a Good Impression on Your Chinese Girlfriend’s Parents

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

Meeting the parents of your girlfriend can be tough, even when you’re dating someone of your same culture and nationality, so it can certainly be even more nerve-wracking when you’re dealing with an international dating situation. There are so many traditions and expectations that you may not be used to or even have the faintest clue about, and sometimes when you’re dating someone of a culture that is very unlike your own, it can feel like you’re walking on eggshells in an effort not to offend their family. It’s these differences in culture that add to the mystery and excitement of dating internationally, but it can also make for a lot of awkward situations if you are not cautious.

This is never more true than when you are dating a Chinese woman. As a Westerner, many of your experiences and social programming will simply not apply, and—let’s face it—you’re probably already at a disadvantage in the eyes of her parents because you are not Chinese. Keep in mind that Chinese people are more wary of foreigners than most Westerners are, and that they will be concerned for the long-term security of their child. You may feel sometimes that they are judging you, and they very well may be; in fact, they may even refuse to accept you, if they are particularly strict. You can tip the odds in your favor, though, by following these tips and making a good impression on her parents the first time that you meet them:

1) First of all, bring a gift

Before you even head over to their house, be sure to pick up a thoughtful gift for your potential in-laws. It doesn’t need to be anything overtly fancy, but don’t insult them by buying anything clearly cheap, either. A good, safe zone is to stick with traditional edibles, such as teas and herbs. You might also want to ask your girlfriend for some suggestions if you really have no idea. Generally speaking, don’t bring flowers, as these don’t have the same connotations as they do in the West.

2) Be respectful

Make polite comments about the house and ask questions to start some small talk. Don’t get too loud or seem too emotional. Avoid getting too familiar too quickly, as well: It is much better to shake hands and nod politely to her parents than to try to hug them when you’ve only just met. In addition, address them with all of the correct honorifics.

3) Make an effort to speak Chinese

Even if your Chinese is broken, or you have difficultly understanding the dialect that her parents speak, her parents will almost certainly appreciate your effort when they see that you are trying to engage and do your best to bridge the gap. When they tell you stories, smile and nod even if you don’t completely understand what may have been said. Pay close attention to body language cues and laugh when everyone else is laughing.

4) Sing your girlfriend’s praises

Once you start getting into deeper conversation, this is the perfect time to start throwing in compliments about your girlfriend. Tell her parents how great you think she is, and explain all of the traits that you think are positive about her, especially those that would make her a good wife. Talk about how talented and smart and capable she is; this is an indirect compliment to her parents and can be very effective, and it tells them that you’re interested in her for the long term. They will also be glad that you appreciate their daughter for all the right reasons, so make it obvious that you truly care for her. On the other hand, however…

5) Avoid being overtly affectionate with your girlfriend

Don’t kiss your girlfriend around her parents or engage in anything that even vaguely implies sexual affection. Don’t hug her or hold her close, either; though such behavior is considered normal in the West, in China it is seen as disrespectful to do this in front of her parents.

6) Keep a look out for the needs of others

In Chinese culture, it is good form to address the needs of others before your own, especially around the dinner table. Offer food to others before you take your portion and fill people’s cups if they appear to be empty. This will go very far in making a good impression, especially since Western people are often viewed as being more rude and individualistic.

7) Do not refuse food

Make sure to sample a piece of everything that is placed on the table, and to eat everything off your plate. This shows appreciation for both the cook and the culture. Besides, you might find yourself trying foods that you’ve never heard of before, and that’s always a good thing.

8) Be genuine

At the end of the day, her parents are just people, and they’re almost certainly curious about you. The fact that you are meeting them at all means that you’re probably serious about their daughter, and that means that they are going to want to get to know the real you. While you should be on your best behavior, and act as respectful as possible, that doesn’t mean that you have to be somebody you’re not. Don’t put up a front; own who you are and all of your flaws. In fact, her parents will probably appreciate humility over any attempts to paint a fake, embellished portrait of who you are just to impress them.

As you might imagine, meeting the parents of your Chinese girlfriend can be a tense experience sometimes, and you may feel the weight of expectations on your shoulders very acutely. Try to remember, though, that her parents may be just as nervous as you are. They, too, may be trying hard to make a good impression, especially if they suspect that you may be their future son-in-law. Because of this, try to treat them with compassion and don’t view them as “the opposition.” Above all, find common ground where you can.

3 May 2016

How To Avoid Thai Girlfriend Scams – Red Flags You Need To Know

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

Thailand is a Mecca of sorts for those who are looking for love—or just for some steamy encounters with some of the world’s sexiest women—and for thousands of foreigners every year (called “farang” by the locals), it does not disappoint.

Most of the men who search through the throngs of petite, smiling Thai women for a wife or a girlfriend find what they’re looking for, though there is always a percentage that will find exactly what they’re not looking for without realizing it at first.

No, we’re not talking about surprise encounters with ladyboys here; many Western men who dive into the world of dating foreign women, especially Thai women, allow their idealism to blind them to the point where they fall for the most transparent Thai girlfriend scams.

The fact of the matter is, just like any other part of the world, especially parts of the world that are still in the process of industrializing, some of these potential “girlfriends” are looking to take you for all you’ve got.

Some of them are scamming several men at the same time, receiving funds every month from their various “boyfriends” under the pretense that this money will keep them from having to work in a brothel or bar where they would be compelled to have encounters with strangers.

Honestly, does it sound like she’s your girlfriend if you have to pay for her to stay true to you? Sure, some men do end up marrying bar girls, but do you really think that a girl who has been working as a prostitute for half her life is your best bet for a healthy relationship, especially if you have to pay her not to have sex with other men? Especially when you consider the fact that many of these women will secretly continue to work in bars anyway?

So how do you go about avoiding Thai women scams that will take advantage of your foreign money so that you can put your energy instead into one of the multitude of perfectly honest, high-quality Thai women? Take a look at these tips and stay ahead of the game:

1) Don’t be desperate

Sometimes perfectly reasonable men will do some stupid things when it comes to love. You may have even witnessed this yourself: Some guys torture themselves by chasing around women who aren’t interested, or by staying with abusive girlfriends, only because their minds are clouded by their attachments.

Well, this isn’t really love—this is desperation. It is this desperation that is the root of why these sorts of scams perpetrated by Thai girls work in the first place. Desperation makes idiots out of us all; it makes us misjudge our true worth and causes us to make stupid decisions based on our feelings of loss in the moment.

Remember that there are many women out there in the world, and that no one single person is the end-all, be-all. There is no reason to feel desperate because in fact, chances are, you have a multitude of options, especially if you’re a foreign man looking for a wife or girlfriend in Thailand. Do not settle for less than what you’re worth!

2) If you have to pay her, she’s not your girlfriend

This might seem like second nature, but you’d be surprised the kind of subtle manipulations and creative excuses these girls can come up with to get their money.

You’re on a date and suddenly she mentions that her little brother needs some medicine but that her family doesn’t have enough money for it. Would you mind spotting her some? It really isn’t much. Maybe she’ll email you about how she’s about to start school, but she doesn’t have the money to buy a motorbike to get there every day.

All of these appear to be reasonable requests on the surface, but as they grow more elaborate and more expensive, you may not even notice what’s happening, especially if you have money to burn.

There’s also those common Thai bar girls who like to collect men to maintain them. Basically, you would be paying her not to work (and thus prostitute herself to other men). As an outsider to this situation, does this sound reasonable to you? There is no reason you should have to pay a maintenance fee to keep a girlfriend. That’s basically prostitution, except without even the promise of sex. If you wish to have an ongoing relationship with a prostitute, that’s fine, but see it for what it is and don’t delude yourself in that you are anything more than a client.

Now, doing the occasional favor for your Thai girlfriend, buying her the occasional gift and paying for your meals together is not unexpected or out of the ordinary, especially if you make much more than she does. This is where the differences lie: A quality girlfriend will try not to burden you with her problems and will attempt to live a self-sufficient life like any other reasonable person.

At the very least, her sexual conduct concerning others will not be based on the condition of your ability to pay up! She will actually be interested in impressing you and will see you as more than a walking wallet.

3) Don’t look for girlfriends in all the wrong places

Searching for a long-term girlfriend? Want a woman that could possible become your wife? What the heck are you doing searching for her in a hostess bar, then? Yes, these professional girls can be attractive and alluring, and part of their charm is how forward they are and how much they fight to get your attention—but they are only that way because they are paid to be that way!

Plenty of men have fallen for the fantasy that a cute bar girl has genuinely developed feelings for them and only them, but more often than not, these women are simply master manipulators. They exploit men for a living, so they have trained themselves to see little more than dollar signs when they see you; do not fall for their illusion.

Whether you are meeting girls online using a convenient dating site, or you’ve bit the bullet and are touring Thailand in person, be extremely wary of the girls who admit to working as “entertainment” in bars or clubs. You are better off concentrating your efforts elsewhere.

There are many aspects to these kinds of romance scams, as they can be very complex. However, if you keep these three general tips in mind, it will help you avoid most of the troublesome ladies. More importantly, remember to go with your gut: If something seems strange about her, or she seems like she’s hiding something or making unreasonable requests too early in the relationship, steer clear.

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26 Apr 2016

5 Reasons Why You Should Date A Filipina Woman

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

The Philippines is a tropical paradise in Southern Asia, filled with a population of people who have a surprisingly pro-Western attitude, and whose culture could be described as a mix of East Asian and Hispanic. Thanks to the many different diverse nations that have landed on their shores, the Philippines is a very interesting territory with very interesting traditions and culture—and even more interesting women.

Filipino women are great change of pace if you’ve been dating Western women, and they are a great choice if you are only just beginning to discover the benefits of dating women of an Asian nationality. While you may know ethnic Filipinas who were born in your own Western country, the women who were born and raised in the Philippines (even if they expatriated later) can be very different, so don’t assume that you know the culture if you have never visited and seen these women for yourself in person.

If you are considering exploring the Philippines, there are some great reasons to date Filipina woman while you’re there. Let’s take a look:

1) Filipinas are patient

Like women of other Asian cultures, Filipinas are taught very early on by their parents to speak in an agreeable tone of voice and to not be quick to criticize. They avoid getting into loud fights or being overly combative, so you can expect that there will be a lot less drama to deal with if you date a woman of this character. While of course there always comes a time when a person—even a demure Filipina girl—must speak her mind, she will know to do it very tactfully and with an emphasis on avoiding too much conflict. If you prefer your girls to be polite, Filipinas are not a bad choice.

2) They take marriage seriously

Since divorce is not allowed in the Philippines (yes, really), Filipinas take the commitment extremely seriously, and would not enter into a marriage without knowing that the only thing that can really part you is death. As a result, they are extremely loyal wives who stay by their husband’s side no matter what. Now, you may not be interested in a marriage at this point in your life (or any point at all), but it is comforting to know that cultural habits, and even the law, is skewed in the favor of loyalty, commitment, and tradition if you ever do decide to get hitched.

3) They are happy to date older men

In superficial Western society, you may be under the impression that once you turn 40, it’s all over and you are not considered “cool” or “attractive” by any of the sexier, younger women whom you may prefer. This does not have to be the case at all! In the Philippines, it’s not unusual for women to date and sometimes even prefer an older man. After all, older men are more secure and established, and this can be a huge advantage for a woman who is looking for real commitment.

4) It is not impossible to find a Filipina woman who has saved herself for marriage (or a committed relationship)

Some men might not care about this, but it is nice to know that a woman you are seriously dating had not run around with dozens of other men before you and may in fact still be a virgin. Try finding a Western woman over the age of about 19 who is a attractive and yet still remains a virgin; in a culture that increasingly embraces short-term pleasure over a more long-term vision, it is considered unusual, even strange for a Western woman to be in her twenties and not have experimented with sex. By the time they are out of college, most attractive Western women have not only had sex, but have had relations with multiple partners, in multiple positions and locations, using techniques you might haven’t even heard of.

While this is a turn-on for some people, some guys prefer a more conservative woman who still has many “firsts” to share with him. In addition, some studies suggest that the more partners a woman has before marriage, the less likely the marriage is to succeed. You might consider dating a Filipina girl to help reduce the chances of promiscuity affecting your relationship in this way.

5) Filipinas are often completely fluent in English

If you’re an English-speaker (and chances are, if you’re reading this, you are), then you may feel a bit frustrated that a huge barrier to dating the beautiful women of Eastern cultures is not knowing the language. While, believe it or not, you don’t necessarily need to know each other’s language to fall in love, it definitely helps! This is where Filipina women really shine.

Filipinas, compared to other Asian women, are particularly fluent in English—and it’s not the counterfeit classroom “fluency” that you might find in other cultures; it is actual, practical fluency, and it is extremely common in Filipino people. You may be shocked to find that a woman you have met has a nearly perfect American accent, and that she understands 100% of what you are saying. In fact, many students from other countries travel to the Philippines specifically to learn English in their schools, and English is a compulsory subject for Filipinos from a very young age.

What probably fuels this fluency isn’t school, however, but a strong respect for Western culture and a tendency to watch Western movies in their native English. If you would like to experience the women of an Asian culture while not having to necessarily invest the time into learning a foreign language, Filipina women certainly make it easier for you.

With all of these advantages, you might be just about ready to open up a new browser tab and book a flight, and of course no one can blame you for your eagerness. First, though, you might want to try exploring Filipina women and getting a feel for them from where you sit. Dating sites are a great option before you jump the gun and head overseas.

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24 Apr 2016

8 Reasons Why You Should Date A Vietnamese Woman

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

Once a war-torn country that in fact had a few run-ins with some Western nations (namely the U.S.), Vietnam has made a comeback in recent decades, and has become a hub for startups lately, boosting the already growing economy. Ever since its markets were made a bit more free, it has become a great place to explore, and, for some, an even greater place to find love.

Why Should You Date A Vietnamese Woman?

What are Vietnamese women like? Many foreigners tend to lump Asian women into one category, but the truth is that Vietnamese women come from a distinct culture, and have many advantages over not only Western women, but women of other Asian nationalities as well. Let’s take a look at some of these reasons why you might do well to date a Vietnamese woman:

1) They’re loyal

Vietnamese women tend to believe in keeping stable long-term relationships. You might find that they are much less likely to cheat on your or walk out on you when things in life get difficult. Disloyalty is something that we often take for granted in Western society, a culture where you’re not expected to stay with your spouse once you notice the first signs of “unhappiness.” By contrast, divorce rates in Vietnam are extremely low, because Vietnamese women understand the value of long-term emotional returns as opposed to short-term instant gratification.

2) They have class

Usually Vietnamese women are quiet, polite, and interested in giving off a good impression. They demonstrate restraint by avoiding overt conflict and attempting to keep interactions as pleasant as possible. If you’re sick of confrontational Western women, this might be a nice change of pace.

3) They are humble

Humility is something you’ll generally be hard-pressed to find in Western women, which is somewhat understandable because it is not rewarded by our society. Western women get a lot of attention for acting in a self-centered way, indiscreetly displaying their physical attributes for the world to see on social media, and boasting the way that men often do. Vietnamese women are instead raised to be humble and to care about others and to genuinely worry about people.

4) They are less promiscuous

This may not be a “pro” for you, depending on what you’re going for, but since they tend to be so loyal to their partners and put so much emphasis on long-term relationships, they are not going to jump into sex right away unless they are fairly sure that the man they are dating is a good fit. If you’re looking for “easy” girls, Vietnamese women may not be what you are looking for, but at least you know that if you date one of these women, it is unlikely that she has had very many partners before you.

5) They believe in family

Once you have known each other for a little bit, she will probably expect you to meet her parents and siblings. If she is dating you, she will also likely be evaluating your potential as a partner for building a family of her own.

Again, if you’re only looking for a one-night stand, this may not be what you want, but if you’re trying to date with the intention of finding a long-term girlfriend or a future wife, then dating a Vietnamese woman would probably be a good idea. You want a woman who will stay by your side and happily raise your children.

6) They are less materialistic

Since their culture places such a huge emphasis on family and other spiritual values over material or monetary ones, you don’t have to worry quite as much that she’s going to take your for a ride and try to scam you. The possibility is always there, of course, but Vietnamese women are generally less interested in money than women of many other cultures. Don’t take this to mean that a Vietnamese a woman isn’t going to care if you’re broke, now—nearly all women, all across the globe care at least to some extent about your net worth, and there’s no real way to get around that—but she is going to care about this more to the extent that lack of wealth could interfere with raising a family, and less to the extent that no cash means she can’t get the latest designer handbag.

7) If the Vietnamese girl is looking for foreign men, she is rather brave

This may sound like an odd point of advantage, but Vietnam is a very traditional society, and as you might imagine some of the older folks don’t take too kindly to their daughters dating foreign men, especially Western men. (There is still some level of dislike due to political conflict of the past, on top of the fact that, like many Asian nations, there is a preference for women to marry men of the same culture.) If she’s willing to take social risks to date you, this means she must really like you and see potential in you as a partner, or else she has a lot more courage than her peers do. Take this as a compliment.

8) They believe in being feminine

Generally, Vietnamese women maintain a classic, feminine look. While you might find pixie cuts, tattoos, torn-up jeans, and other classless, masculine decoration quite often in Western women, especially ones of the American persuasion, it will be much harder to find a Vietnamese woman sporting this same kind of…ornamentation. In fact, go ahead and try to find one that fits this description; you’ll be looking forever.

While some men prefer this kind of rough look, a lot of us crave a softer, more submissive, more feminine appearance, and Vietnamese women certainly tend to fit this description.

So if you’re looking for a girlfriend who is family-oriented, more conservative, and who gives off an air of class and humility, you should try dating a Vietnamese woman. Known for their stunning beauty and femininity, even if you’re not sure if marriage is in your long-term plans, it’s worth it to get acquainted with one of these ladies.

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17 Apr 2016

8 Reasons Why You Should Date A Thai Woman

by My Asian Soulmate | posted in: Asian Women | 0

Ah, Thailand: A place of spiritual enlightenment filled with beautiful Buddhist temples and lines of monks filing down the street every morning—and also a place of bars, strip clubs, and general debauchery. Many a young man has been seduced by this world of extremes, and found himself both in a state of growth and of overwhelm. Many young men have also found themselves in love; in a foreign land where the women seem to be so genuinely kind and cheerful, especially compared to Western women, it is easy to fall head over heels.

You may know of men who have a taste for Thai women. Indeed, lots of tourist activity from Western nations revolves around the very fact that so many foreign men find the women in Thailand to be pleasing. Why is this though? Let’s take a look at some of the core reasons why men are visiting Thailand in droves in order to find wives or girlfriend (or, for some of the less discriminating types, a paid date):

1) Thai women are generally positive.

Obviously, this varies, but one of the first things that makes a huge impression on people when they visit the Land of Smiles is, well…the smiles! In Western cultures, the unfortunate trend of late has been a tendency for cynicism, sarcasm, and complaining. Even most of our comedy and humor falls along these lines. In Thai culture, it is seen as somewhat unseemly to unload your problems onto other people or to subject other people to your anger by losing your temper. Getting negative or emotional is a quick way to lose face, and so generally you will find that Thai women try to bring up positive things in conversation and they won’t spend all of your time together venting about their problems.

2) They show that they care about you.

While Western women tend to be a bit more reserved about doing favors for men or giving them gifts (because there’s a common cultural belief that the men should be doing this for the women), Thai women understand the value of a good man, so you may find that they are extremely accommodating and willing to help you. For example, if you don’t know how to get to a certain place, you may be shocked to find that a Thai woman you’re dating might go out of her way not only to give you directions, but to come along with you.

3) They are less entitled.

Because Thai girls general don’t grow up with all the conveniences that Western women grow up with, they have less of a sense of entitlement and less of an expectation that the world is going to take care of them. If you would like a woman that isn’t living in this bubble of detrimental comfort, you might consider dating a Thai lady, especially one from a small town.

4) They actually want to make you happy.

While of course it depends on the individual, in general Thai women place more of an emphasis on keeping their men happy than Western women do. For example, if your sex drive is higher than that of your Western girlfriend, she may be shocked if you imply that she should endeavor to have sex with you more often anyway; by contrast, Thai women are generally glad to please their men, often worrying that if they don’t keep their boyfriends content, they may run around with other women.

5) They are less superficial.

So, maybe you don’t have six pack abs and biceps that are bursting out of your shirt, nor are you a billionaire who drives a Ferrari to get to his mailbox. However, you would think that you’d need to be all these things to get a girlfriend if you went by the entitled attitude of some Western women, who can be petty, superficial, and unrealistic about what they seek from a mate. Thai women are often more mature in this regard, and they see a man for his long-term potential and character. They know that looks and youth fade over time, and they’re more willing to date older, more established men if the man is stable and honest.

6) They are tactful.

One way that you can tell how a person will treat you over the long-term, even after the initial tingles have worn off, is how they treat others. In Thai society, kindness is an important social trait as they are a Buddhist culture and they believe in Karma. Though of course this has its disadvantages (like less clarity), Thai women are generally very careful with the way they treat the feelings of others and they will almost never behave in a rude way. They are taught to not be confrontational or abrasive, which can be very refreshing if you’ve spent time dating Western women.

7) They are more submissive.

With Western women, there is often this hidden agenda beneath the surface, where every move you make is secretly being used to fuel a power struggle between you and your girlfriend. Have you ever felt that? Have you ever had a Western woman refuse to comply with a suggestion of yours for no logical reason, or for the mere purposes of childishly proving that you “can’t tell [her] what to do?” Have you ever had a Western woman accuse you of chauvinism simply because you didn’t agree with her?

You can forget all of that drama if you date a Thai woman; they are usually much more submissive than Western women and they don’t find it insulting to follow your lead. If you prefer to give your woman more of the control, that’s completely up to you of course, but if you’re the kind of guy who is into the more “traditional” roles of men and women, you would probably have better luck with a Thai girl than with a Western woman.

8) They are beautiful.

Of course, the Thai look isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but if you’re into petite girls who generally know how to keep their waistlines in control, then a Thai lady might be exactly what you want. Thai women also tend to age very well, so they will keep their looks longer if you do plan to bite the bullet and get married someday.

As with women of any culture, Thai women aren’t going to be perfect, but if you find the traits mentioned above to be appealing, you might be able to find true love in the Land of Smiles—and there are plenty of eligible women there who are ready and willing for the right foreign man to come along.

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