How To Meet Asian Women Online – Part Two

How To Meet Asian Women Online – Part Two:The Profile

Even if you already know a lot about online dating, reviewing this section is recommended as preparation and it can secure you from mistakes that could cost you a fantastic date with an amazing Asian woman.

The Profile: Important pointsHow to meet Asian women online

Transparency in who you are and what you want is your top priority. Here we designed a customized guide for you to build your profile and create an image that reflects your true inner character. Here are some points you should consider while building your profile:

1. Search yourself: Who are you and what do you want?

Remember, if you want to court an Asian woman you have to be direct and confident!

You can start by Googling your name and see what you find because she will do it at some point any way. If you do show up on Google, make sure you don’t build an online dating profile that contracts your public profile.

The truth is that most men aren’t used to talking about themselves, and In daily life, we are rarely called upon to list our strengths or detail our accomplishments. Because of this many people miss some of their best qualities in their profile; try not to miss your best qualities. You can ask relatives or close friends to tell you some of the good qualities about you that you didn’t even know yourself.

2. Take the time to put original thinking into your profile

You can read other profiles to get ideas but be sure that you write an original profile that depicts your character in the honest yet desirable way. If your profile is too short, generic, and impersonal, or badly written and loaded with unnecessary stuff, it is likely that girls will ignore you. Remember that girls on online dating sites receive a lot of messages. If you don’t stand out of the crowd, you’re putting yourself at a huge disadvantage.

3. Choose a catchy screen name and heading

Try not to choose a screen name that exposes you as a ‘not caring’ personality, like “Andy1234”. Try to find a screen name which is creative, bears a sense of humor, carries a meaning and is not light-hearted. Put your passion into it and try it to be free from Asian related words such as “AsianLover”. Same goes with headings and short descriptions. You should avoid common generic phrases like “searching for my soul-mate” or “seeking my Asian princess”. There is nothing wrong with them but they are not original nor creative. You can use your hobbies for instance to create a catchy screen name or description.

4. Make sure you include at least one photoHow to meet Asian women online - good profile picture

It is recommend that you post a minimum of two photos. Pick pictures that represent you well. Pictures that depict you engaged in an activity are good as they put your personality on display. Variety in pictures is directly linked with the number of viewing. You can also show off some creativity with your pictures.

Caution: Don’t be a show off. If you have a ripped athletic body or some cool body tattoos, don’t blatantly show them off in shirtless selfies. Try to make it more subtle, such as picture that features you engaged in a sport of some sort. For example, if you love to play golf, throw in a picture of you in a epic golf pose.

Remember to upload recent photos, you may get away with a few years but a picture that is different from you can be a wet blanket when she meets you for the first time.

5. Make sure your profile description has plenty of useful information

Help your potential Asian soulmate identify what you like and dislike, your personal beliefs, your strengths and weaknesses, your traits and your qualities. It’s a good idea to add facts that can support your words. Asian girls normally need more facts than girls from your own ethnic group to trust you. If you love travel, talk about your latest travels and add a relevant picture to your profile and try to talk a little bit about the picture. Take time to generously discuss your favorite books, music, cuisine, websites, locations, movies, etc. If there are negative sides with your character that you are planning to improve, adding them might actually improve your image as an honest person. Feel free to brag about yourself a little bit but don’t overdo it and never ever try to pretend to be someone else. In general avoid exaggeration and inconsistency.

6- Be clear about your relationship requirements to prevent misunderstanding

Many Asian immigrants may date with an aim to marry, even if for whatever reason they don’t mention it clearly in their profile. If you have something else in mind and you are confident about it, be clear and upfront and mention it in your own profile.

7- Nothing can make dating your Asian girl more perfect than a sense of fairy tale romanceHow to meet Asian women online - romance

Add some creativity to your first date. Be romantic in the location and activity that you choose. It can be centered around nature, sports, art, etc. Asian woman can be a little difficult to win over, but once you do they will extremely loyal and loving. You just have to sweep them off your feet.

8- Read the part one of this series again

After writing your profile, go back and read part one of this series again. Try to customize and improve your profile accordingly, and try to find opportunities where you can show how you appreciate Asian culture and values. Just don’t put any unrealistic or disingenuous information.

9- Share your profile with friends and ask for advice and comments.

Having an Asian friend can be a good resource for this step. They can look over your profile and give you a unique perspective on whether or not it will be effective in meeting Asian women online or not.

In part 3, we’ll explore some tips on how to message and communicate effectively in the world of online dating.

Click here to read Part Two: Effective Messaging and Communication

How to Meet Asian Women Online – Part One

Part One: Lessons and Tips From Asian Culture

The Asian community, like other communities, is represented by all manners of life such as different levels of education (although education is typically the priority), religion (mostly non-religious, but also Buddhist and Christian), immigrant and native-born, etc. Many different Asian ethnic groups, each with their own language and dialect, have spread throughout most, if not all Western countries like The United States, The United Kingdom, Canada, etc.

Asian heritage is old, rich and shares a common culture and value system that rings true with many other cultures. But what you have to remember is that there are differences in details and details sometimes become the most important. Missing a single detail can cost you the Asian woman of your dreams. In this article, we have categorized the 7 most important points you should know in order to maximize your chances of meeting Asian women online.

Number 1: Values and cultureHow to meet an Asian woman online - Learn Asian Culture

Asian culture is easy to appreciate as it has many interesting beliefs, traditions, music, cuisine, movies, arts, and history. Mutual cultural appreciation is important. The Asian cultural etiquette (Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai, Philippine, etc.) can sometimes be significantly different from the customs of the western way of living.

Here are a few interesting cultural customs:

  • They respect the home by taking off their shoes in their house. If you could make it with shoes inside, don’t even try to get on the bed with shoes on.
  • They learn to use chopsticks sometimes even before they lean to speak, so these utensils can be a good source for bonding you together! Learn it!
  • Having a baby son makes them proud. When the baby is a boy, Asian parents act like they have won a lottery.

Family, honor, hard work, and education are among the top values in Asian communities that will also be reflected in romantic relationships and dating. And remember that their hard work includes working on relationships as well as household management.

Asian women are like Western women in that they want the best for themselves, meaning you have to show her that you are the best that she can get. Show her that you care about values and culture, and that you understand the importance of mutual cultural appreciation. Help her to appreciate a taste of culture from your side.

When it comes to relationships, values that Asian girls and women pursue are not very different from women of other ethnic groups. This is the result of a comprehensive interview carried out in Hong Kong on relationship choice and good sex life [1]:

On choosing a relationship:

How to meet an Asian woman online - RespectMost respondents said that partners who ‘understands me’ and ‘respects me’ are the most important considerations in an intimate relationship.

Other factors are as follows:

  • Mutual respect and mutual understanding: %95.9:
  • Kindness and good heart: %31.6
  • Cheerfulness: %28
  • Responsible: %25.8
  • Career prospects: %20.6
  • Financial status: %3.2

On how respondents described a good sex life, the factors were as follows:

  • Mutual satisfaction in general and all aspects: %34.4
  • Sense of emotional love and understanding: %26.6
  • Compatibility: %12.9
  • Orgasm: %3.4

As Asian women’s abilities and opportunities to be financially independent increase, the qualities they desire in a relationship shift towards the non-material and the emotional.

Number 2: Asian women are considerate but not necessarily submissive

Don’t expect every Asian woman to be passive and submissive. Passive and subservient types of women and men exist but few Asian women still keep that tradition (back in their own country). Many Asian women today are ambitious and fight every day to get their way in this modern era. Additionally, Asians born in a western country tend to take take on the stereotypical traits or Western women.

In Asian countries, times have been changing for women, and new gender identities and sexual lifestyles are emerging. Women are active agents in these processes, individually and collectively involved in renegotiating and reshaping their daily lives and they have they own ideas of what it means to be modern [1].

So if an Asian woman seems to be acting passive or submission, don’t assume necessarily assume that she cannot also be assertive and direct. Asian women are raised to be highly polite and considerate, which are the manners they display, but that doesn’t define who they are as a person.How to meet an Asian woman online - Polite women

Number 3: Social image

Asians including Asian girls are very concerned about social image and status. If you have a collage degree or any certificate, then it’s not a time for being modest. You should also expect that they will show off their relationship in public and among friends. Many Asian girls prefer to date guys that look good both on paper and real life.

Try to show off your assets in a way that’s not arrogant. Let your prospective Asian soul-mate know why she should choose you, but stay humble about your achievements and don’t ever make her feel stupid or inferior compared to you.

Number 4: English as a second language

Except for in the Philippines, Asian women are not likely to be fluent in English. It might be their second language, especially if they have recently immigrated. The point to keep in mind here is that if she misspells or mishears a word, be considerate not to make it a deal as it can turn into a point of insecurity and discomfort for her. If you’re extremely particular about flawless English grammar and pronunciation, Asian women may not be for you.

This also becomes important when you try to be humorous, sarcastic or when you try making her smile by telling her a joke. Try to analyze her level of understanding and then find a joke that she really can understand. Don’t assume she is as familiar with common phrases and sayings as you are. And try to take it easy on the puns. In order to see the humor in puns, it require a fairly deep understanding of any language.

Number 5: Watch for the cultural codes of romance

Every single Asian ethnic community has different views of dating and marriage. Of course you can see most of the information you need in profiles, but even if they claim they don’t seek marriage or a serious relationship, it doesn’t mean it’s not their priority. Besides, different ethnic groups from Asian community have specific traditions and cultural codes on relationships and marriage. For instance:

  • In Chinese wedding traditions, the groom pays for the wedding.How to meet an Asian woman online - romance
  • Some Asian girls (common in Chinese culture) that intend to get married keep the natural shape of eyebrows as a sign.
  • In most cases, physical intimacy develops slowly as Asian girls like to learn about your patterns and behaviors.
  • It’s not unusual for girls and women to confess their feelings to men.
  • Many Asian girls are under pressure from their families to get married.

Throughout numerous interviews with girls and women from different occupations and social groups in China, interviewers found that most of them share the point of view that love and sex are not separable.

They say that when you are emotionally connected with the person, sex is pleasurable; if the emotional connection is lacking, sex is not good. Sexual intercourse with a person you don’t love feels like being raped [1].

As always however, there are exceptions to every rule. Here is a quote from a woman who has had different sexual partners held that sex and love are completely separable:

“I met a man and did it several times; now I almost couldn’t leave him physically. He took this easy. I felt that he was inspirational to my sexuality. I had orgasm with him every time. Ever since the encounters with him, I have had good feelings towards having sex. So I feel that sex and emotional love are separable. I feel grateful to him because he helped me build up a healthy attitude towards sexuality.”[1]

Although western lifestyle has been gradually influencing Asian lifestyles, specifically for newer generations, in general you need to know that the door to modern life is not completely open in Asian cultures. This is especially true when it comes to sexuality being separate from love, reproduction and motherhood (i.e., for fun)[2].

The rule of ‘individual people own individual mentalities’ exists and statistics show that Asian women are much more likely to be living with a man who is White, Black, or Latino, compared to Asian men living with women who are White, Block, Latino, etc. Additionally, there are a a growing number of unmarried Asian women who are living with members of the opposite sex[2].

If you have a strict point of view over marriage, be sure you put it in somewhere in your profile. Remember that not all Asian women are the same. Most may want to get married eventually, but some may not. Focus your energy on Asian girls who think the way you think, and share a similar level of sensitivity.

Number 6: Learn a bit about Asian superstitions for funHow to meet an Asian woman online - superstition

Many Asian cultures follow different traditions and believe in superstitions (much like most cultures around the world). The mere existence of these traditions and superstitions does mean that every Asian women you talk to will practice them. But knowing a few of them won’t hurt in conversations and it can even help you to understand each other in the future. Here are some interesting samples:

  • numbers 8, 18, 13 and 168 are lucky and number 4 brings bad luck
  • A pet turtle slows down business
  • The whole Chinese Calendar-based fortune telling
  • Using scissors, washing hair and dusting on new years’ day is bad luck
  • Playing music or whistling at night brings ghosts and spirits
  • While red and yellow are good fortune colors, black brings bad fortune
  • An uncut noodle in soup will increase longevity in life
  • Chopsticks should not be stuck upright into the food as its similar to the tombstone in the graveyard
  • The whole Feng shui symbolism: Feng shui is a Chinese belief system of laws on flows of energy that exist to balance yin and yang and bring harmony to nature and its symbolism is widely used. Some symbols like the gold fish (koi), frogs, bamboo, coins, water and kites bring prosperity while some others like fire, incense, candles, stars, bring fame and so on.
  • All the rules surrounding pregnant women: Pregnant women shouldn’t cut anything in the bed, or attend funerals and weddings. They should also avoid hanging baby pictures on the wall and they are advised to do a number of things like leaving a small light on during the night or keeping a knife under the bed.
  • Don’t give clocks as a gift (specifically for Chinese) as it means separation. It’s a homophone of the Chinese word ‘the end’. The same goes for ‘sharing a pear’ as it also means ‘the end’. You can of course share a pear with your Chinese date as long as she doesn’t know you know this rule.

All cultures have superstitions and new generations use them mostly for fun. Many try to find the underlying practical origins of these superstitions. For instance whistling or playing music at night bothers neighbors. In short, they are all made for the sake of controlling and improving their society.

Number 7: The fairytale romance

Asian woman are very emotional and often crave for a fairy tale romance, so you have to dive for a deep emotional connection. Nevertheless, it’s better not to use the term ‘fairytale’ and instead just act upon it. Being kind and having a good heart is an important factor and good start (remember statistics in lesson 1).

Click here to read Part Two: Lessons and Tips for Online Dating

Where to Meet Vietnamese Girls: The 3 Best Places

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Vietnamese women can make some extremely loyal girlfriends if you know where to look for the right ones. They are not only generally very attractive women, but they are also conditioned to want to please their men, which is something that you may find to be refreshing if you’ve spent most of your life dating Western women.

If you’re not already convinced about the beauty of Vietnamese girls, just let this video run for a couple of minutes…

The culture in Vietnam is still rather traditional, so the women there are usually looking for a stable boyfriend or husband whom they can have a serious relationship with. Naturally, this doesn’t mean that all the girls are like that and that it will be impossible to find something casual, but again keep in mind that girls from Vietnam are different from Western women and even the women of other Asian cultures, and often have a more long-term view of dating.

As with any population of women though, different kinds of girls congregate in different places, so you’re going to want to know where to go to get what you’re looking for. Whether you want a one-night stand or something that will last for years, let’s take a look at a few of your options when it comes to meeting Vietnamese girls:

1) The BeachMeeting Vietnamese women at the beach

If you’re already in Vietnam, one of the best places to flex your romantic muscles and meet some girls can be at the beach. Just like in the West, it’s good to run your “day game” where people are relaxed and receptive to your casual conversations. If you’re trying to pick up strangers and get to know them, though, it’s probably best to stick to beaches more or less near big cities in the South like Ho Chi Minh City, since the more urbanized and Western-friendly girls are easier to come by and they will make you jump through fewer hoops if you’re just looking for a physical relationship. Up North, expect the girls to be more hesitant to have casual sex.

2) Clubs and Bars

You may be interested in getting laid at all costs, in which case a bar or club in Vietnam is the way to go—but you’ll often have to pay for it. Not all girls at the clubs are prostitutes, but until you’ve had a bit of experience, it may be hard for you to know at first if the girl you’re talking to is a pro or just into you for your good looks.

If you just want to have fun and don’t mind having to sift through these kinds of girls, then go ahead, but—just as you may have experienced in the West—it’s much, much harder to find a “nice girl” at a nightclub or other similar location than in, say, the halls of a University or the pews of a church.

Sure, lots of girls like to dance, but it’s all a numbers game, and if you’re looking for your future wife, the numbers are not in your favor at a club. On the other hand, you may have just come to Vietnam to have fun. If that’s the case, you can at the very least make some friends and dance with some pretty girls.

3) Online Dating

The nice thing about online dating is that you can do this even if you’re not quite ready yet for international travel. If you’re looking for something serious, and you want a reason to go to Vietnam, then you might try one of the quality Asian dating sites out there that let you meet and chat with Vietnamese women.

Just like in the West, online dating is increasingly popular in South East Asian, and there are plenty of women out there who are specifically looking for a foreign husband or boyfriend. Some women see Western men as being exotic or particularly attractive, or else they are interested in learning about Western culture and making a friend from an English-speaking country, so they join international dating sites in the hopes of meeting men like you.

Now, though you can meet quality women on dating sites, it has a few pitfalls that are similar to the club scenario. First of all, you will have to distinguish the real prospects from prostitutes. This is fairly straight-forward usually, though; once you’ve talked to a girl long enough and it doesn’t seem like she’s after any money, the problem sort of takes care of itself.

Another downside, is that these sites may be saturated by multitudes of men with similar intentions as yours, but thankfully there are usually plenty of great women to go around—and if there aren’t, then you might be on the wrong site.

Something important to note here is to also be aware of possible scammers. Just as you can expect in other Southeast Asian countries, a small minority of women in Vietnam who show interest in you are going to be actually interested in your money without any intention of even giving sex in return. If you haven’t even met her and she’s giving you a sob story about her poor auntie who is sick, then beware.

For a lot of guys, they don’t have experience saying no to beautiful women, and so they get taken advantage of. Make sure not to let your guard down too easily when you’re first taking to a new woman, and don’t let her beauty or personality blind you to any red flags that she may be all too obviously displaying.

If you meet a good woman on a dating site, she might want to take things rather slow, but be patient. As mentioned, Vietnamese women are more traditional, so try not to scare her away by getting too sexual too quickly. Keep things polite, but still try to ask all the deep questions so that you can really get to know your prospective girlfriend before you meet.

These are just a few ideas on where to meet your Vietnamese girlfriend, but honestly, the sky is the limit. Just as with any other countries, you will have to learn its unique flavor yourself and come up with your own ideas for best results.

For some extra preparation, check out this video on tips for dating a Vietnamese girl: